"A godly home is the closest thing to Eden that we will ever experience on this Earth." That was one of the opening statements from the family conference, and also the one that had the deepest impact on me. As Christians, our homes should be places where our families and guests find peace, love, joy, encouragement, a refuge from the troubles of this world. This is my desire for my home!
First, we must recognize that marriage is created by God as a covenant between one man and one woman and was intended to last a LIFETIME. God says man is to leave his father and mother and "cleave" to his wife. The word cleave can be translated here as joined together, glued. When we glue something together, we are looking to form a bond that will hold that object together permanently. If we try to tear apart an item after we have glued it together, we are left with rips, broken pieces, splinters, etc. Over one-million families in America will be impacted by divorce this year, and often times this brokenness manifests in the lives of the children. Children of divorced parents have a:
-70 % greater chance of dropping out or get expelled from school
-164% greater chance of having a child out of wedlock
-50% greater chance of alcohol and drug abuse
-300% greater chance of needing psychological counseling
Next, we must understand that every good and perfect thing that God has done, satan tries to corrupt. Marriage was created by God to be an earthly example of Christ's relationship to the church. That is why marriage and family are under constant attack. There are many ways these attacks are carried out: movies, novels, worldly "wisdom," and even sadly misdirected family, friends and churches. We are inundated with romance, passion, beauty... everywhere we turn. It is all about the attraction, the feeling, the excitement. But true love is not a feeling, it is a choice. To truly love another person, we must die to self and live for Christ. It is only through pursuing holiness that we can ever find true happiness. This is contrary to the world's philosophy that tells you to "look out for yourself and if it makes you happy do it." But God's word shows us that marriage is the greatest gift and opportunity that we have to pour our life into someone else.
I will teach you the fear of the Lord."
They labor in vain who build it..."Psalm 127:1
But the foolish pulls it down with her hands." ~Proverbs 14:1
The parents' role: